Over the past year or so, I started to think about something that is an epidemic very similar to judging a book by it’s cover: taking yourself too seriously.
I see it all the time. Someone is walking down the street, dressed the way they want to dress, walking their walk, talking their talk. All of a sudden, they hear someone snicker at them, or they see people pointing at laughing. What happens? They get depressed. They think they aren’t good enough for the world. They start believing that they are wrong and their opinion is wrong, and they need to change. They were so serious about themselves that once someone shot them down or ridiculed the way they live, it upsets them.
Think of it from another point of view. Someone else is dressed the way they want. Maybe they’re dressed up, wearing a suit everywhere they go, or wearing some outfit that they love and they hear someone comment about it in a negative way. Instead of getting depressed, they snap at the person. They get angry and start thinking to themselves, “I don’t care what they think. I’m so much better than them. I don’t need their opinion.” They are so serious about themselves that they get angry when anyone doesn’t see things their way or disagrees with the way they live.
This one is my biggest pet peeve. You’re the kind of person who loves to make sarcastic comments and jokes about people. People laugh about it, they enjoy your comments and jokes. However, someone in your circle of friends or family starts doing the same thing to you. They make sarcastic comments or jokes about you. And you get upset!!!!! That annoys me, and here’s why: you can dish it out, but you can’t take it. You’re so insecure that as soon as someone makes fun of you, you get mad. Word of advice: if you can’t take it, don’t dish it out. Don’t make sarcastic comments or jokes about someone if you’re not willing to laugh at yourself.
These people are all over the place. They are so serious about themselves and the way they walk and talk and react shows it. They withdraw when they’re angry because someone made fun of them or because they were compared to someone they don’t like or someone who’s name carries a negative connotation.
The picture above says it all: don’t take yourself so seriously. Learn to laugh at yourself and at life. Find the humor, find the joy, find the good stuff. If someone cracks a joke or makes fun of you at your expense, do everything you can to shrug it off. Don’t get mad. Don’t get depressed. Turn the situation around.
Be careful, though. You could fall into the trap of thinking that you’re too good for them. Learn to take criticism. If they’re comparing you with someone you don’t like, take it as a sign that you need to take a look at yourself and see what is there that you don’t like. Don’t get all high and mighty like no one’s opinion matters to you. People’s opinions are what help us make ourselves better.
So, again, let me say that you need to make sure that you don’t take criticism or jokes to heart. Make the best of what people say.
In the words of The Joker “Why so serious?”
Listen, analyze what you heard and if it doesn’t apply to you, laugh it off, shrug it off, and move on.
Enjoy the rest of your weekend.